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Adoption After Infertility

Trusted guidance for a life-changing decision

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We know that your path to considering adoption was not easy. Every person's experience with infertility is unique, but you always deserve respect, care, and compassion. As a trusted resource on adoption, we can provide you with accurate, comprehensive information, tailored to your needs and perspective as a person who has already walked a difficult road towards starting or growing your family. NCFA is here to help you make a well-informed decision about adoption for your family.

These resources are generously sponsored by ARC Fertility.

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In a 2021 nationwide survey, more than one-third of adoptive parents said they were motivated to adopt after experiencing infertility.

Considering Adoption?

Read these resources first.

Lessons Learned

Adoptive parents who have experienced infertility share their experiences working with adoption professionals

FAQs

Answers to some of the most common questions from people thinking about adoption after infertility.

Understanding Grief, Loss & Trauma in Adoption

As you consider the possibility of becoming a parent through adoption, it is critical to become educated about and equipped for the unique needs of your future child, and your experiences as an adoptive family. We strongly recommend that all prospective adoptive parents, regardless of the type of adoption you pursue, be proactive in preparing for the lifelong journey of adoption by learning about trauma, loss, grief, attachment, and other core adoption-related issues.

The Baggage We Carry: Creating an Awareness of How our Past Impacts our Parenting and Making it Work

Presented at the 2021 National Adoption Conference by Meg Montgomery, LMSW, LICSW, International Adoption Coordinator at Adoption STAR

Adoption After Infertility

Presented at the 2022 National Adoption Conference by Anna Koehle, HS-BCP, CCTP – Certified Clinical Trauma Professional

 

The Role of Prenatal and Preverbal Trauma in the Attachment Relationship

Presented at the 2021 National Adoption Conference by Diana Osipsov, LMSW – Owner and Clinical Therapist, Roots Therapeutic Specialty Services

 

It's not as simple as "just adopt" because adoption and having a child by birth are not the same, and completing an adoption is often not simple.

-Ryan Hanlon, President & CEO of NCFA

The Adoption Process

Adoption 101

A visual overview of the basics of the adoption process

Webinar

Adoption 101: An overview of the basics of adoption and how to be prepared for adoption.

Types of Adoption

A more detailed look at the different types of adoption including answers to frequently asked questions.

Personal Stories

Elissa's Story

As you process grief and begin to heal, there are ups and downs in the journey. For [Elissa], this “loss is always going to be there, but it doesn’t mean you can’t love again.”

Liz's Story

"Pregnancy is scary just like adoption is scary.. things can happen, things can change, things can go wrong. It’s all so scary, but it’s all so worth it."

Sarah's Story

"So, after nine years of infertility, surgeries, testing, medications, and heart-wrenching longing for a baby, Shane and I decided to become foster parents and open our hearts and home to any child who needed it."

Upcoming Webinars

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Adoption 101

A special webinar for people considering adoption after experiencing infertility.

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Adoption Finance

An overview of the resources available to prospective adoptive families as they plan to meet the financial requirements of the adoption process.

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Grief and Loss

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Supporting Employees Pursuing Adoption

Getting Started

How to Choose an Adoption Professional

A guide to choosing an ethical, experienced, adoption service provider for all types of adoption.

Adoption Agency & Attorney Directory

 

Search NCFA's member directory for an adoption service provider near you.

 

Preparing for the Financial Cost of Adoption

Information about grants, loans, the adoption tax credit, and other financial resources for pre-adoptive parents

Finding Support

RESOLVE

The national infertility association offers support and resources to people experiencing infertility and considering adoption.

 

Creating a Family Facebook Group

An online community for foster, adoptive, and kinship families. Many of the members came to adoption from infertility.

Want to learn more?

We'd love to send you a quick note as we add new adoption education resources for prospective adoptive parents. It's easy to sign up, and if you don't find the information helpful or relevant, it's also easy to opt out.

These resources are generously sponsored by ARC Fertility.

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